101 Sometimes A Loved One Will keep Bugging you until you Acknowledge their Message

      

      When word got around the high school that I spoke to my son, who had passed away from a heroin overdose, a few unfamiliar students came in during lunch or before school to talk to me about their experiences with loved ones who spoke to them from heaven. 
        Pedro, one of my students, walked into my classroom after school and introduced his friend.  He pushed Jose towards me. "Go ahead, don't be afraid to tell her."

     Jose struggled to control his tears. "My cousin was killed in a gang fight a few months ago. He was stabbed to death." 
     I gave him my condolences, and he thanked me.
     Pedro elbowed him. "Tell her the rest."
     He stuttered. "He keeps waking me up at night."

     I studied his anguished face. "Are you ignoring him when he tries to talk to you?"

     He dropped his head and nodded.

     "If he keeps bugging you, it must be important. What is he telling you?"
      Jose kept shifting his weight from one leg to the other. "To not join the gang. To stay clean."

      "That sounds like an important message." 
      He swallowed, fighting back his tears.
      "What do you think he's telling you that?"

      He stuttered, "Because I guess he knows I've been thinking about joining the gang that he was in.  But I'm not anymore because of what happened to him."

      "Have you told him that?"

      "No. I've been too afraid to talk to a ghost."

      I smiled. "Don't be frightened; he's your cousin. He's worried that you're going to turn up like him. He sees all the pain he has caused his family and regrets the decisions he had made. Tell him that you decided not to join the gang after losing him." (I was receiving this info from who knows where.)
       Jose nodded.
       "Listen to him. Maybe he has some interesting stories about being in a gang that will influence you even more about why you shouldn't join."

      "I bet he does," he said, then gave half a smile melted onto his lips as if a memory popped in.

      Jose thanked me, and Pedro followed suit.

      That little talk made me wish more people believed that when someone dies, you still don't totally lose them; a loved one is still there when needed. You still can have a relationship; it's just a long-distance one. When you need to talk,  take a couple of deep breaths to slow your body down and then call your loved one in. Remember, though, they still have a life up in heaven, so sometimes they're busy. My son's voice will pop into my head and say, "Mom, busy, talk to you later."   It's true, we talk a lot less than what we used to, and he still warns me about things, not that I always listen.  But after 11 years, he's still there to guide me and listen to my grumbles.

    But remember, even in heaven, those who passed have their own life, so if you find yourself talking to them almost every day after two years, you need to cut the ties because it's very unhealthy.

At that time, I didn't know how to cut the energy ties between spirits and the living. But now I do. 

 (Blogs to teach you how to let go of a loved one who is still hanging around.

Blog 14 - Powerful tool to use after someone has died 

 https://othersideofloss.blogspot.com/2018/01/14-this-is-powerful-tool-to-use-after.html 

Blog 43   Cutting ties with someone you love. Imperative to your health.

https://othersideofloss.blogspot.com/2018/04/43-cutting-ties-with-your-children.html