101 Sometimes A Loved One Will keep Bugging you until you Acknowledge their Message

      

      When word got around the high school that I spoke to my son, who had passed away from a heroin overdose, a few unfamiliar students came in during lunch or before school to talk to me about their experiences with loved ones who spoke to them from heaven. 
        Pedro, one of my students, walked into my classroom after school and introduced his friend.  He pushed Jose towards me. "Go ahead, don't be afraid to tell her."

     Jose struggled to control his tears. "My cousin was killed in a gang fight a few months ago. He was stabbed to death." 
     I gave him my condolences, and he thanked me.
     Pedro elbowed him. "Tell her the rest."
     He stuttered. "He keeps waking me up at night."

     I studied his anguished face. "Are you ignoring him when he tries to talk to you?"

     He dropped his head and nodded.

     "If he keeps bugging you, it must be important. What is he telling you?"
      Jose kept shifting his weight from one leg to the other. "To not join the gang. To stay clean."

      "That sounds like an important message." 
      He swallowed, fighting back his tears.
      "What do you think he's telling you that?"

      He stuttered, "Because I guess he knows I've been thinking about joining the gang that he was in.  But I'm not anymore because of what happened to him."

      "Have you told him that?"

      "No. I've been too afraid to talk to a ghost."

      I smiled. "Don't be frightened; he's your cousin. He's worried that you're going to turn up like him. He sees all the pain he has caused his family and regrets the decisions he had made. Tell him that you decided not to join the gang after losing him." (I was receiving this info from who knows where.)
       Jose nodded.
       "Listen to him. Maybe he has some interesting stories about being in a gang that will influence you even more about why you shouldn't join."

      "I bet he does," he said, then gave half a smile melted onto his lips as if a memory popped in.

      Jose thanked me, and Pedro followed suit.

      That little talk made me wish more people believed that when someone dies, you still don't totally lose them; a loved one is still there when needed. You still can have a relationship; it's just a long-distance one. When you need to talk,  take a couple of deep breaths to slow your body down and then call your loved one in. Remember, though, they still have a life up in heaven, so sometimes they're busy. My son's voice will pop into my head and say, "Mom, busy, talk to you later."   It's true, we talk a lot less than what we used to, and he still warns me about things, not that I always listen.  But after 11 years, he's still there to guide me and listen to my grumbles.

    But remember, even in heaven, those who passed have their own life, so if you find yourself talking to them almost every day after two years, you need to cut the ties because it's very unhealthy.

At that time, I didn't know how to cut the energy ties between spirits and the living. But now I do. 

 (Blogs to teach you how to let go of a loved one who is still hanging around.

Blog 14 - Powerful tool to use after someone has died 

 https://othersideofloss.blogspot.com/2018/01/14-this-is-powerful-tool-to-use-after.html 

Blog 43   Cutting ties with someone you love. Imperative to your health.

https://othersideofloss.blogspot.com/2018/04/43-cutting-ties-with-your-children.html 

100 Releasing Negative Thoughts about Our Self and Others is Imperative for our Health

                          https://www.google.com/search?q=releasing+negative+thoughts&sxsrf

     A few notes from a fabulous Spiritual speaker and healer, Michael Simenson.  Often times he gives  free lectures but who knows what he's doing during these COVID times. He is also a very strong healer. His specialty is working with Autistic, Tourette, A.D.D., and A.D.H.D. kids.  His site is: https://energeticallysensitivechild.com/

  After taking a healing workshop with Michael for 2 days.  I received permission from my school to invite him to talk to Canoga High students. I sent a note out to all the teachers and only a few replied. The students loved his belief that we are here on this planet to experience positive and negative things. He asked us, “If everything was easy, would our soul learn any life lessons?" A few were crying at the end of the lesson after he did a group healing.

He suggested that when you become upset to ask yourself:

a)  Why am I upset?

b)  What triggered my reaction?

c)  What am I supposed to learn from this?

d)  How am I going to learn this lesson?

   When something negative happens to you, or someone  or you make a negative judgment about yourself, instead of reacting, stop and say to yourself, “I take that anger or judgment and melt it into my love and light.” (In a teacher workshop quite a few years ago, the presenter taught us to say, “Cancel, cancel,” however I like Michael’s statement better.)

    If you are mad at someone or yourself, say, "Paul, or self, thank you for introducing me to this conflict or fear. I now release my anger ( fear or judgment) to my higher self.” This negative emotion, if held onto, will change your aura. This energy around you (your aura) will start to darken because your life flow has been interrupted by your negative thoughts. If these negative thoughts continue, you will become ill physically or mentally.
   Here's an exercise: Think of a recent incident where you were happy. Now hook your two pointing fingers and try to pull them apart. What happens?   Now think of an issue where you've judged yourself or another, or think of a time when you became very angry. See and feel that anger. Now hook your fingers again while you are replaying this incident. What happens? Usually, because your energy is depleted, or weakened, your fingers will unhook. You've given your power away because of this negative thought.

   Never embrace regret; it’s a negative thought also. You are not honoring your spirit that decided to experience that specific situation.  Honor that you experienced it but then take that negative feeling that you have to your love and light. Release the need to understand everything.  NEVER ignore your feelings or place them on a shelf...  transmute the negative ones to your love and light.

   When we were in our mother’s womb, we started learning to think negatively or experience fear or joy because we felt our mother's feelings and heard her tone of voice or other people’s voices talking or even yelling. The unborn child won't understand, but he/she picks up that fear or love or joy or hate or anger even though he or she can't put words to it. The child feels emotions and tones and volume. As an adult say, “As a child, I heard and felt an energy that I didn’t understand. I release this fear, anxiety and any other negative emotions that I had felt to my love and light.”

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   A true loving being will not judge others or oneself.  YOUR THOUGHTS AND WHAT YOU SAY ARE PART OF YOU…….stay in the white light.

1. If you have negative thoughts, say, "Cool. I've been given the gift to experience these negative thoughts, experiences, or illness, but now I melt them into my love and light.”

2. If someone is yelling or making negative comments - you hold the light- stay positive.  They are  the slaves to their fears and their emotions.


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A healthy aura. You don't want grey around you and that's what happens when we think negatively.

Exercises to create new hardware in your brain: A few of my students cried when we repeated these lines after Michael had said them.

1. Hands out, palms facing self.  "I am white light,  I love myself, I am awesome, I am amazing, I'm a walking talking love machine, I'm creative, I'm loved by my family, I love myself, I'm smart, I'm creative, I'm a walking talking love machine."(PLACE HANDS OVER YOUR HEAD -repeat this affirmation a couple times)

2. “I'm never alone, I'm source manifest, I release the concept that I don't know, I have all knowledge within me, I'm all knowing...I'm love...I'm light.” (Repeat a couple times.)

3. "I'm responsible for my life. I create my reality with my own power." (Repeat a few times.)

    I volunteered during my conference period and worked with Special Ed. Classes that had kids with extreme special needs: A.D.D., A.D.H.D., Tourette, Autism.  I taught them meditation first so they could go to that quiet place when they needed to and then later I taught them all the exercises above in two sessions.   The teachers could not believe how much the kids changed. They were able to focus more,  retain material and their grades raised. And the students were much happier.

WE NEED TO STOP TRYING TO FIX EACH OTHER, JUST TAKE CARE OF YOUR SELF. Of course, that doesn’t mean you aren’t there to help and guide others, but the individual has to do their own work.

99 A Funny Experience About Me Accepting my Second Animal Guide

      I had learned to journey to find my first animal guide, a wolf, and assumed that one animal guide would be it. But I guess another guide decided I needed to work with him also.  This time, I was introduced to my new animal guide in some very unusual ways.

       As usual, my West Highland Terrier started barking to let me know it was time to accompany him on a walk. I swear he has a clock somewhere hidden inside of that white body of his because if I'm even five minutes late, he barks to reprimand me.  I clipped his leash on, and we were on our way.   It was a beautiful day, not too hot, not too cold.  Cawing sounds came from above, so I looked up to see one blackbird fly above me to perch on a tree nearby.   I was familiar with their routine, but suddenly, the other one flew right across the road about 15 feet in front of me.  Now that was strange, that had never happened.  And then, within seconds, the other flew low, close to the road, to the other side.  I looked on the street, thinking there might be some squished lizard or a squirrel, so these birds were upset that I had walked too close to their dinner. But there wasn't anything there.  

       The following day three giant blackbirds kept flying back and forth in front of me, surprisingly close, cawing like crazy as if they were mad at me.  I was a little worried that I was going to be dive-bombed. Topper looked up and started barking furiously, possibly thinking he was protecting me until I quieted him down.  Maybe the birds were having fun harassing my dog. When I got home, I researched what type of birds I had seen within the last few days because I honestly wasn't sure if they were Ravens or Blackbirds. They resembled a Raven to a tee.

       Then the following morning, I was driving down Topanga Cyn. to school when a Raven flew low, right in front of my car, I had to step on my brake, or I would have hit it.  This time I wondered if the 'Raven' was trying to introduce himself to me as my animal guide.  But I already had one; can I have two?  Naw, one guide is enough, I thought.
      That same week I walked into our Topanga Homegrown Store, and right on the display table sat a fountain about two feet high. And what do you think was perched on the edge of it? Yup, a Raven. I thought, no way. This has to be a Black Bird.  Still, I couldn't accept that a gross Raven wanted to be my Animal Guide. And again, I wondered why I was being harassed by Ravens lately.  I tried to pick the fountain up, but I couldn't because it was too heavy, so a curly-headed saleswoman asked if she could help me. I told her I needed to find out what type of bird it was. She said, "I think it's a Raven, but let's make sure." with great difficulty, she picked the fountain up, and I looked under the base. Sure enough, the little label read, ''aven.'' I thanked her. 

      I rushed outside, freaking out. I had journeyed to find my first Animal Guide a few years earlier. It was a wolf, but was another animal introducing itself to me? Not. I told Alan about the Ravens, and he guaranteed me that Ravens do not live in this hemisphere. However, I disagreed with him. I got online again, this time comparing the characteristics of a Raven and a Blackbird, just in case the birds I had seen were Blackbirds. They were Ravens because they were huge, and they had this funky bump on the top of their bill.  I, of course, let Alan know of my findings and teased him about actually being wrong about something. 

     I was a bit upset. There's the way that a Raven is my animal guide. It eats roadkill. Gross! Why can't a second animal guide be a lion or a bear? You know... strong, giant animals? I still refused to accept my 2nd animal guide. 

     Then a week later, I was returning home from work, driving up Topanga Blvd. when I whipped around one of the many big curves. ""hit!""I yelled. Instantly, I rammed on the brakes, and my car skidded to a stop. A Raven had flown down from the nearby hill and landed in the road one hundred feet in front of my car.  It was huge. It bent its head down a little bit and stared at me as if looking right into my soul. And within seconds, it flew off, and I continued to drive home.  It seemed as if the Raven was on the lookout for my Mini Cooper. Are animals that intelligent?

     My heartbeat refused to slow down, ""all right, all right, I get it. A Raven is one of my animal guides. Thank you. I accept the gift.""I felt I had to say something because I kept being visually bombarded with Ravens everywhere I went the last few weeks. I thought maybe if I accepted them as my guide, they would leave me alone. I steadied my breath as I continued to drive home.

     I told Alan what had happened, and he said, "there aren't any Ravens in this hemisphere.""(I'm sure he rolled his eyes, but I couldn't see them since he was doing some drafting.)

     "Alan, I told you, I did some research.  It was a Raven, and they do live in this hemisphere,""I responded, a bit annoyed because he still insisted that it was a Blackbird.

    Blackbird (left)...Raven (right)                         
      

    Yes, there are many types of blackbirds and ravens, but they still look very different.

     Later, in a shamanic journey, I asked its name. His name is Bitza. I looked up how a Raven is supposed to help me and wasn't surprised why he was one of my Guides.

     I now work with my wolf and the Raven all the time when helping others heal.
     Be open to any animal that might introduce itself within a three or four-week period. It could be a  spider, a worm,  or an elephant.  If you don't accept it, it will give up.  Be observant because you might see the animal in a book, a poster, a dream, a cloud, etc.;  
   Then once you find one, get online and see how to journey, start reading about your spirit animal, welcome them into your life.  Ask their name. Tell your spirit animal that you are open to working with them. You will be surprised at how much they can help you.

Check out Blog 98 - How I journeyed to find my first animal guide
https://othersideofloss.blogspot.com/2019/03/98-finding-your-spirit-or-animal-guide.html    

   
How to meet your spirit guide and work with him/her:

 https://www.spiritanimal.info/how-to-find-spirit-animal/

https://www.google.com/search?client=firefox-b-1-d&q=How+can+I+work+with+my+animal+guide&channel=cus2#kpvalbx=_EVIwXsyKDpLZ9AP7yYaoAQ28

98 Finding your Spirit or Animal Guide is the first step to Help Maneuver Life's Difficulties

      What is a spirit guide? It can be anything in Creation that speaks to a person through dreams or makes a physical appearance or uses vibrations,  signs, symbols, words, or any other methods of communication.  A spirit guide can be clouds, the wind, a rock, or it could be an ancestor or other human form.  It is more comfortable for many people to call a spirit guide an angel, but you can’t assume they are.  A spirit guide could be a worm ( I know, yuck...) or even an elephant. Or it could be an insect or amphibians, fish, invertebrates, mammals, or reptiles.  Remember, all things are created by the Creator. Or you could have a spirit guide which can be a person who has passed to the other side.  

     

     There are a few sites out there that you can take a quiz to see what animal guide you have, and then you can research how that animal guide is supposed to help you. Here is one site: http://www.spiritanimal.info/spirit-animal-quiz/     I’m not sure if it’s the best way to find your guide as I tend to be more of a traditionalist when it comes to being introduced to a guide. However, if you take the quiz and find your guide, I'd love to hear from you to learn if the information about how the animal is supposed to help you rings true to what you are going through at the present time. 

 
                      

      I learned how to find my Spirit Guide the traditional way: I attended a Reiki Healing class in Sedona, Arizona. A Navajo Shaman taught us how to Journey (a Shaman tradition) to find our Spirit Animal. He asked us to sit or lie down. Once we were settled, he blessed the room with sage. However, you can also use cedar, sweetgrass, or even tobacco. He lit a candle that changed the vibrations in the room.  Someone drummed a steady rhythmic beat. (If you are alone, find Shaman drumming on u-tube or Spotify. It should be a steady beat.)   This beat changes the brain waves so that you can travel in this mystical world. He lit a white candle.  I laid down, took a few deep breaths, and released any preconceived ideas and desires or expectations. Then I asked for my Spirit Animal to show itself to me. Keep an open mind, and don’t be afraid. (BLOG 76 talks about my first journey.  http://othersideofloss.blogspot.com/2018/09/76-my-first-experience-journeying-just.html      BLOG 99  A funny story about being bugged by my second animal guide till I finally accepted her http://othersideofloss.blogspot.com/2019/03/99-my-second-animal-guide-kept.html  

     If you feel uncomfortable journeying or listening to drum music, then listen to mellow music, and think of some idyllic place like a forest, or a mountain covered in spring flowers, or a bubbling stream.  Move about in this magical world. Smell, see and touch.  Ask your spirit guide to introduce itself to you. Ask its name.  Whatever appears, welcome it.  But be patient; it might take a little time. Don’t be afraid to touch or hug your animal guide. Be open to what happens to you and spend time talking with your guide.

      Be open to any message(s) and do not fall into the trap of expecting a particular message to be delivered.  Open your heart to your spirit guide’s love and lessons.  Once you’ve finished, thank your guide for meeting you in this special place and thank them for the message. Slowly return the way you came, and then give yourself a few minutes to fully return to the present. Gradually open your eyes. Remember, you've been in another world. If you open your eyes too quickly, I learned, that you can get a massive headache.

     There are other ways magical creatures will introduce themselves to you as your spirit guide.  Maybe you open a magazine, and a whale is there, or you dream about one, or you see some pajamas with whales on them. Usually, you’ll be introduced to your Animal Guide at least three or four times within a couple of weeks. The same Animal Guide rarely stays with you your whole life as your needs change. When you have a special relationship with your spirit guide or animal guide, you can work deeper on improving yourself and receiving help in this challenging world. 

    I feel like I found another spiritual technique in working with God’s gifts, his animals, to help my family and others.

    If you have a lot of mind chatter, it’s difficult for a guide to come in and say hi. Meditate, slow your body down. If you don’t know how to meditate, read Blog # 7.  

http://othersideofloss.blogspot.com/2017/12/7-do-you-know-how-meditation-helps-or.html   

97 The Momo Challenge is a very scary thing

       I had read about the “Momo Challenge” in The Week magazine. It had nothing to do with me, so I skimmed the article and shared the info with Alan. Both of us commented about how scary it must be for kids and parents to have to deal with this.  How crazy is it that someone can cut and splice the Momo Challenge onto kids’ shows Utube, let alone design an App?  The challenges evidently start pretty easy and then turn dangerous and scary.  There have been a few suicides that have been linked to this challenge, however, in the articles that I’ve read police haven’t proven it yet.

    Any adult who works with kids needs to be aware of this issue because if you see a change in a child/teen, ask what’s going on?  “It takes a village to raise a child.”

 

 

Alan yelled at me for showing him this pic.

He said, “That thing’s very scary looking.” 

It didn’t bother me.

   A week after I had skimmed the article, Letty, a friend of mine texted me to tell me that she needs to talk to me.  Immediately I called. Her eight-year-old daughter was watching an age-appropriate movie online when the above picture popped up.  Her daughter freaked. Momo told her to do something, but I can’t remember what. Now she’s been having nightmares for a week and is scared that the Momo character is going to come and hurt her.  Letty was extremely distraught and didn’t know what to do to help her daughter, so she was hopeful that I had a few suggestions.  

    I recommended that she stop by a Spiritual store and pick up a crystal that her daughter can hold or place it in her pocket or backpack. Then I told her to tell her daughter that the crystal will help keep her safe.  (This is very important for anyone, to feel safe, especially children.  Maybe even ask your child what will help him/her feel safe. If the child is young it could be a favorite doll or stuffed animal.) Next, light a candle and tell your child to look at the flame and memorize what it looks like. “Then close your eyes and see that flame getting larger and larger, so it’s surrounding you and then watch the bright flame fill the entire room.  Tell your child or teen that this is a beautiful wall of protection that nothing can break through it. MAKE SURE YOU BLOW THE CANDLE OUT AND REMOVE IT FROM THE ROOM. Also, create a prayer of protection. Ask your angels to come in, Christ, etc; just ask for their protection.

   Of course, I suggested that Letty call the school and to let them know what’s happened because the more the school knows what’s going on at home, the more they can help and be supportive. Also, if other parents have called in to share that their child had seen Momo or had it interrupt a show also, the school will realize it’s a problem.  Kids will be afraid and have difficulty concentrating.  There are usually counselors on site. But if the school realizes there’s a lot of kids reacting to this awful prank, then the district will bring in outside counselors.  Sometimes the school will have an assembly to talk to the kids or teach the teachers some techniques to help the children deal with their fear.  Occasionally, the principal will send a letter home to explain the problem, and suggest some monitoring of internet usage and list therapists outside the school.

   As a parent you can block certain sites that you don’t want your child to watch or you can monitor what they do watch. Parents need to talk to their children AND teens about what sites are acceptable to watch and what aren’t.

APPS TO MONITOR KIDS ACTIVITY ONLINE – There’s tons out there. Check their ratings. Go to Staples or Best Buy to get help on how to set it up.

https://tech-vise.com/best-apps-and-devices-to-monitor-your-kids-online-activity/  

http://www.techaddiction.ca/monitor-internet-activity.html